To Balanna his wife was a shadow of strength, lady luck, goddess of power, confidence booster, everything to him. She shouldered not only family responsibility but shared the sour moments of his life too. He preferred she accompanied him on his journeys. She was an active lady who was always on her toes for her selfless contribution to the family, either to accompany her husband or fly to tend to the needs of her children. In later years she became a prey to a chain of dangerous diseases such as heart enlargement, high blood pressure with chronic diabetic. Though she was energetic backed by will power but, she was actually paving her way to her eternal journey. In 1994, September 13th, before midnight, Balanna’s wife who had already suffered two heart attacks earlier, succumbed to the third one. Just prior to few hours of her final goodbye to her family, Balanna was by her bed side, rubbing her cold feet to warm them up, gazing at her pale turned face - uttered in a choked voice - "Papa" (he fondly addressed her) don't orphan me, if you too abandon me, I'll be a lost child, please get up and reinvigorate yourself, I need you", but she was turning cold, ambulance was summoned and before leaving she in a soft tone replied - "Bali (she addressed him as) don't worry, I shall soon make arrangements for your journey to join me”. Silence prevailed and she was lifted unto the ambulance only to return home lifeless. The doctor who attended her had acknowledged her last "Namaste" gesture as she had lost her voice by then, but even before he could attend her, her soul had departed from her body.
Balanna couldn't come to terms to believe that his wife was no more. His grief was palpable as he was in a state of dumps and devastation and appeared that he will never recover from the disastrous separation, as her loss was insurmountable for him. He looked emotionally lost, and soon after the funeral rites he moved out to his younger daughters home. A man of humility, with tremendous sense of humour, a man who cheered all and illuminated the atmosphere turned repressive and confined himself to mourn the death of his soul mate who lived with him for 46 years.
Balanna experienced that beleaguered phase as a catastrophe and felt the roof overhead had crashed down on him as he lost his life partner who stood like a pillar in his lifetime, encouraging him, guiding him, infusing will power to sustain the pain and loss he suffered periodically, with her demise a pall of gloom shrouded "Abhimaan".
A MESSAGE:- A wife and the husband should sacrifice a lot for the longevity of their relationship and for the strong foothold of the in family base. It is both of them who should jointly act in accordancy for the decision to live and lead a peaceful life. Money alone is not the criterion for a happy family, but love, care, togetherness, compatibility understanding, responsibility and above all sacrifices shall work for a cemented relationship. Wherever one finds a union family, the secret is pretty sure that a lot of sacrifices had been worked out. Solidarity in the family shall act as an iron door for any ill-feelings or evil-activities to enter in by them self guarding one’s own family.